We can turn it inward, unconsciously harming ourselves by internalizing the mistreatment, eventually believing that we deserve it and continuing to live in avoidance and fear. Or we can turn it outward, unconsciously becoming like the person who hurt us and passing the wound on to others in an attempt to protect our wounded ego through revenge. The third path is neither personalization nor identification. It is the conscious choice to move beyond the ego. Fear is replaced b